Status

Your status really improves when you die.

~ Liane Moriarty

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Why is it that we try to remember the dead fondly? Is it about them or is it that we want people to remember us fondly when we are gone? The idea that it is in bad taste to "speak ill of the dead" is weird to me. That is maybe the only time they do not care at all what we say. 

So, do we say nice things about them in deference to the people they leave behind? It's important to exercise caution there, too. Have you ever tried to say something like, "I'm sure you have happy memories to reflect on..." or "There must be some special stories you have about them..." And then you're met with a blank stare in return?

Sometimes, when you ask people about good memories they have, they don't have any. I've seen those conversations and it is awkward when someone says, "Nope. I'm glad they're gone." 

It is especially awkward if you are a defense attorney and your client is asked those questions by police officers investigating whether or not your client might be a murderer. I mean, for goodness sake, help yourself out a little bit, suspect!