Fray

Poets don't draw.  They unravel their handwriting and then tie it up again, but differently.

~ Jean Cocteau

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There is a lot of benefit to undoing things we thought were done and reconstructing them.  In order to do that you have to deconstruct them first. 

Sometimes things break apart on their own. They become worn and frayed and tattered. Other times they become shattered and we have to make meaning of what they were and figure out what to keep (if anything) and what to discard (if anything).


The harder thing might be to undo the things that are so integrated into our lives that we don't ever think to question them, fray them, shatter them.

Like...  well, it's hard to think of what those things are, right?

Maybe that's why we have to talk to other people. So they can help us see the things that are so obvious they're invisible.

And sometimes we don't like it when they point out those things. Because it makes us uncomfortable. And if someone comforts us it makes us feel strong, when someone uncomforts us it makes us feel weak.

And when we are frightened by what might become unraveled in our own worlds, we are nothing more than fraydy cats.