The whole difference between construction and creation is exactly this: that a thing constructed can only be loved after it is constructed; but a thing created is loved before it exists.
~ Charles Dickens
- - - - -I really like that quote. It is true on a lot of different levels. Spider webs might seem like creations to non-spiders, but likely are constructed by spiders as homes or traps.
Lots of homes can feel like traps and can feel constructed in the moment rather than created. However, I would argue that we create our memories and experiences rather than simply constructing them. And creating them can happen long after we aren't a part of them any longer. In the moment of the initial experience, however, they can seem very different.
I think about growing up and now I feel like that is a well of stories. There were times in the moment, however, that it felt like a trap. I think that is simply a part of being young and having less control (allegedly) than we do as adults (allegedly).
The other night on the phone, Leslie and I were talking about our days. Some days feel created and some days feel constructed - with that I most certainly concur.
Leslie: My life is like a Charles Dickens novel.
Me: Great Expectations?
Leslie: No. The effed up one. (she didn't say effed. I edited that in).
Me: A Christmas Carol?
Leslie: Bleak House.
